婚姻的两种模样:一种余生,一种凑合

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凑合的婚姻,不是出轨就是离婚。

最近听说了一件很不可思议的事情,高考成绩出来没多久,小区有一对夫妻离婚了。

前段时间,外人还羡慕他们孩子都这么大了,还是这么恩爱,没想到,这才过去没多久,他们就离婚了。

后来还是一位年长的老人家,说起了他们年轻时的故事。

他们是相亲走到一起的,因为年纪大了,大人们也催的很厉害,双方见面没多久,家里就定下了他们的婚事。

原本两个人各有对象,但是家里不太满意,硬是拆散了,大人们以为婚后,两人感情自然会变好。

但是双方本来就没有多少感情基础,结婚后,也是整日里吵个不停。

妻子加班,丈夫家里垃圾堆成山也不会收拾;丈夫出差,出去多少天,妻子也从来不会过问

后来他们都准备离婚了,可是因为有了孩子又不得不继续将就。

后来有知情人士说,其实他们早就各过各的了,这么多年都是为了孩子没有明说,现在孩子也上大学了,他们也不必继续凑合了。

什么样的婚姻最让人难过,大概就是凑合的婚姻了吧。

凑合的婚姻,就像分工明确的项目合作,除了投入和产出要成正比之外,两个人没有情感上的交流,没有关爱,没有感动。

凑合的婚姻,就像将两个拿错剧本的人强行绑在一起,只有互不理解和相互委屈。

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有人说,婚姻有两种模样,一种余生,一种凑合。

XXIndeed, it is life only when you come together with someone who loves you and you love.

Because marriage, you not only need to live, but also need to have a spiritual resonance.

The relatives have a cousin who is married late in their generation.

At first, for her marriage, the family did not care much, but basically the object of each blind date and her after seeing one side were rejected by her.

Later, the people who introduced it all talked about gossip. You are so big, and you pick what you pick, but the cousin ignored it.

And her family is also very open, did not give her excessive pressure.

At the age of 30, she met her husband on a trip and married for ten years. They are still very loving.

Several people who are about the same age as her are envious of her only marriage to love.

There is such a line in the movie《世界上最伟大的父亲》:

I thought that the worst thing in the world was that I was alone. Actually not, the worst thing is to be old with those who make you feel lonely.

It’s not easy for a person to be with him forever. He will know you, protect you, and will not let you be wronged. He will give you enough security and will take care of you for the rest of your life;

And with a make-up person, your tiredness does not care, your grievances, he can not see, your contribution, he does not know how to cherish.

Only when your efforts are understood, sad people are distressed, smiles are guarded, and such marriages are worthy of the rest of your life.

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Marriage is divided into two types, one is make-up, the other is the rest of life.

It’s really a long time in my life. I want to be better to myself. Only when I am with the right person, I will live up to the rest of my life.

May you have the privilege of meeting someone you love and spending this life with him. If you haven't come yet, then wait.

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